Everybody has got the force - being disruptive in the free Galaxy

As the new Chapter of the Star Wars saga is presented all over the world, so the "force" has came back in our daily conversations.I often wondered why in the movies, only few people had the force. In the end I figured that in real life everybody has got the force, but only few people are willing to leave behind them all the negative feelings they feel in order to activate the force and let it flow the right way. Others feel so strong with their bad feelings, that they will cross easily to the other side, using the force for personal reasons. The Tao explains this theory very well: the balance is the secret. We all have some good inside us, but so we are born with some evil. All of us have a great force inside us, like a huge flashlight. You can decide to point it and let it guide you to a precise direction, or keep it turned off and drag yourself in the dark, living life following the light of others. Or you could point it at the eyes of your enemies and blind everyone around you with your arrogance and cockiness. In the end is always a choice: should I sacrifice myself for the greater good and risk to be defeated with honor, or should I win blinding my enemies? Should I keep my force turned off for my entire life, so I won't risk to do the wrong thing? 

This reminded me of entrepreneurship. We all think, at least once in our life, how wonderful will be being the boss, decide the rules, do something we love.But to do something like this, you need the force, a lot of it!Not everyone is ready to take the blame, to let the worries flow and guide the others in the pursuing of a personal dream. It may be easier if you are just after the money, the profit and you are willing to pollute, crush and step on in order to get there, up there with the big big Companies. The dark side is always the easiest. I am now working on a project, a business idea revolving around the connection between the people and the planet, connecting the producers with the consumers, truly, in a "real" and sincere way. I realized that you really need a lot of force, only to think about a project like this. Why shouldn't I sit on a comforting chair, paid by someone else who is following its own dreams? It would be much easier, much safer! But when you feel the force, or the disruption grow inside you, it's impossible to stay put on a chair. When you feel that you have to do something, then it's worth trying. I got there thanks to Wayne Dyer. When he departed I read a lot about his life and I decided to watch this movie: the Shift. It really changed me and it changed my vision of life. I quit my desk job and started teaching Tai Chi again waiting for my other idea to develop. In the exhausting process of entrepreneurship, many times I will think about turning back, let my weaknesses drag me to the dark side of easy solutions and sacrifice of my own ideals. But since I think we are all Jedi deep down, I will keep fighting for the ideas I believe in. Somehow, when you are doing something good, you don't feel alone anymore, it's true: the force is everywhere, in everyone, you just have to believe in it and switch it on. 

"The Force is what gives a Jedi his power. It's an energy field created by all living things. It surrounds us and penetrates us. It binds the galaxy together." Ben to Luke

A job is pretty much like a love story - nothing lasts forever

Lately I have started to think about how many jobs I have changed, about those I've turned down and those few I would have loved to do but they didn't love me back.

Probably that's because a job is pretty much like a love story. 

There have been times when I really fell for a particular job, I courted it and I put myself out there in order to obtain it, but it didn't work. The disappointment was more or less the same I have experienced the many times I liked a man and he didn't know I even existed or he would tell me everything about his girlfriend. 

Think about interviews for instance: a ballet where interviewer and interviewed constantly exchange the predominant position to excel with perfect answer or the perfect question. I got so used to interviews that I find them hilarious now, I can easily predict the next question and anticipate the facial expression the interviewer will make about my school life etc... if only it was a television quiz!

Back to love and work. 

There are jobs about which you are not sure. Begin or not begin? Is it right for me? Am I going to be happy, satisfied and understood? 

Since no love story is perfect, you try it. You sign your contract and give it try. The first 60 days should be the best they say, but the embarrassment of not knowing where to put your hands, what to say and what to do, just reminds me of something...

Anyway, if you survive those amazing trial periods and nobody ships you back, then you're in. The real story begins and you start to see that it wasn't so perfect as it felt the first days, but if you really enjoy what you are doing is not impossible to wipe out the flaws. After all a relationship is never easy, sometimes you will have to fight and resist, even when the other is not at its best. 

Then, here it comes: the other job. Someone offers you a position, right in the middle of your other experience which is difficult, hard sometimes, heart wrecking maybe, but still, it has been there for you when you had to improve, achieve new certifications or ask for a new pc. 

Your curiosity may allow you to flirt a little, so you talk with their HR and see what this new job has to offer. Of course it sound better, richer and more attractive! 

So now what, my dear loyal worker? 

Most of us, well maybe just me, would make a long list with pros and cons of both choices and in the end will choose out of sympathy, guilt and affection. 

Finally, you'll have the break up. 

"It's not you, it's me"  "I am not right for this position! Don't you see?"

"I need more, you are not listening to my ideas!"

"We are just not made for each other, I need sometimes for myself, to think about my future."

"But you know what? I wish you to find the best candidate possible, I am sure that you'll have a great relationship together."

Then there are the disruptive people like me. Out of the box. With a lot of ideas, creativity and energy. To find the perfect mate becomes even harder when you are not suitable for ordinary; I am not being arrogant, just realistic. Because if can write about it, it's because I lived it all.

So, in the end I must say that I am still waiting for my soulmate, but I am happy that I have made a lot of friends in the meantime.